Turning Inward

It happens every year—the battening down of the emotional hatches that occurs when the days get shorter.

In October it’s not unusual that by six-thirty everyone has been fed and I’m locking the front door and heading upstairs. In contrast, at six-thirty on a July evening it’s likely that I haven’t even started preparing dinner. As the darkness comes faster I feel a need to gather everyone inside and be finished. I’m not afraid of the dark. Actually it’s often quite the contrary. There is a sure and certain magic in walking one’s dog on a cold December night-with the smell of the neighbor’s wood stove in the air and it seems as if every star in the universe might fall at your feet. But I feel a need to have my day’s work completed by nightfall—to protect everyone from an uncertain darkness—to have them all under my wings. So the days are sometimes rushed. I have to fit it all in less time.

While I traditionally struggle with energy levels and mood issues when there are fewer daylight hours I also look forward the traditions involved in preparing for the long winter. Obviously we have resources available to us that make it so we don’t have to put up enough food for the whole the winter, but I think much of the emotional hunkering down I do is leftover from days when preparing for winter was a matter of survival.

There is usually a new sweater on my needles. And the slow-cooker comes out of the garage (although this year it never actually made it back into the garage). Much of the cooler weather activities in my house center around cooking. Efforts are made to stay connected while the natural meeting of neighbors is reduced. We snuggle closer for warmth. And we’ll laugh and cry and be grumpier than usual and manage—until the days slowly begin to get longer again.

How do you prepare for winter in your home?

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20 Responses to “Turning Inward”

  1. V Says:

    I cry.just kidding. (sort of) But the thought of it can really bring the gray out in me…I prepare for winter by thinking about spring break. and realizing this year that our school break does not come until the end of march, with no break in FEB…. I’m wondering how I can sneak off for some sun in Feb… It pretty much consumes me… How can I save money so i can get out.. Isn’t that weird for someone who grew up in Minnesota!Besides that, i do have enough food put up, as they say, I’m making xmas gifts, looking forward to school field trips, and the holidays, And hopefully meeting up soon for coffee and chat, hopefully with you! Now that will cheer me up!

  2. kate Says:

    We are just leaving winter and now coming into some warmer weather and I must say I have found the change a little unsettling. It’s such a nice feeling to have most things done by nightfall and feel as though there is still time left in an evening to create…with the lighter nights I sort have felt like my day is that much longer..

  3. Amy - parkcitygirl Says:

    I tend to pull the kids in sooner and start making dinner a bit earlier too – I like having more family time in the cooler months. closing the curtains and shutting the world out for the day. the cozy evenings are here :)

  4. Ann Says:

    I resume cooking food indoors. It’s nice when pot roast sounds good again.I also resume knitting, which this year means unraveling an entire sock cuff because I have no idea where I was going with it when I put it aside in June.

  5. Audrie Says:

    Well being an indoor girl, there’s not much difference in my routine hehe Although we do go round the house taking down the A/Cs and changing the screen on the front door. And I cook lots and lots of stews :) Best part of winter I reckon.

  6. Theresa Says:

    This is so strange being on the opposite side of the world. These last few months reading your blog has made me envious of your summer and begrudging the cold weather I was enduring. But we are gradually coming out of our winter and rolling into spring. Gratefully it’s been a little wetter than expected and the rain here is much needed. At the moment we’ve very happy tall weeds, the result of lovely last rain and a little sunshine. But it will be hot hot hot soon and totally different. We have tomatoes, corn, sprint onions and leeks to get our sumemr garden started.My slow cooker died at the beginning of last winter. I didn’t think I’d cope having got so used to it these past few years. But I rediscovered the le cruset and the casserole. Oh yeh, it’s not the same as that lovely feeling that you’re so organised when you’ve popped it on in the morning and you take the lid off at 6pm to a lovely something falling off the bone. But seriously with the ‘other way’ you need a bit of time to think ahead but in reality, 2 hours. It’s really not that bad. Enjoy your coolness, We’ll enjoy ours too!

  7. Tonya Says:

    I prepare in the exact same way. I know the winter months are more stressful for me. There is some kind of angst associated with leaving work in the dark, rushing home to get dinner made, and everything just taking on a more hurried feeling. I try to remind myself of what the clock actually says, but my brain overrides and forces me to always feel like we are behind "schedule." But, the good things about winter; knitting hats, drinking tea in the evening, hot chocolate for the really cold days, the smell of the air, and the beautiful stars, makes it a wonderful time of year. My daughter is 3, last winter she wanted to go out every night before bedtime to say goodnight to the stars. The last week or so she has been remarking about the moon, since she really hadn’t seen it in months. When I start to see the winter night through her eyes, it makes it a lot more special.

  8. jacquie Says:

    when darkness comes earlier it’s harder around here…lonliness comes at night…daylight encourages me to work…at night i miss my hubby. weird how long nights do that.

  9. MichelleB Says:

    I tend to want to do those same things – but it seems like fall is so busy with activities for older kids. I feel like we’re constantly taking and picking up. I probably get into bed sooner – not necessarily to sleep, just to be in bed.

  10. Diane Says:

    What a lovely post. Just yesterday I was wondering if it was only me who feels out of sorts in a funny way at this time of year. Grumpier, gloomier. From your post and the comments, I see it’s not just me. That’s very good to know! We are taking up afternoon tea again, baking bread every few days again, and I am trying to lose that feeling that I should be doing something else when I sit down to knit during the day…

  11. aseemlylife Says:

    Lovely thoughts. I’m not sure I really can say I have to prepare for winter really. In my mind I do. I have food put-up in jars, in the freezer and a winter crop (in my raised bed, not a field) coming. I live in southern CA which means I bring out an extra quilt for the bed and buy a cord of firewood for the fireplace,( not because we actually need the heat but the ambiance) I walk in the morning now with a sweatshirt which usually comes off mid walk. That’s winter here in CA. None the less I do feel the season change and I love it. It also means I get to lower my electric bill by half now that the air isn’t running in the 105 degree days. I love the cooler months.Marty

  12. amylouwho Says:

    I’m not sure what I do… Although this year we are entering into the cooler season with an early round of bronchitis and ear infections, for me even! Not what I would recommend doing…

  13. Kathleen Says:

    All summer long I hang towels behind the kids’ curtains to create the illusion that it’s dark at bedtime… now they’re sitting at the dinner table marveling that it’s already so dark, that it must be SO LATE. I know better, but I’m still surprised when they fall asleep and there’s still so much evening ahead… turns out it wasn’t so late after all.This feels like found time, and right now I’m relishing it. I know I’ll be tired of it soon – long before I need those towels in the windows again – but right now it feels cozy and crisp and wonderful.

  14. Alexis Says:

    Now that we’ve made it through the first month of back to school craziness, I have to remind myself to slow down and truly enjoy Fall. It’s my favorite season, and I need to prepare for Winter, which is my least favorite. I can’t take all the cold and darkness!

  15. Cheryl Arkison Says:

    I clean and organize. It isn’t the sun of spring cleaning that makes me see the mess, it is the confinement of a long (6 month winter) that does it.And I load the freezer, stock up on butter, cocoa, molasses, chocolate chips, and flour so I can always bake to take the chill off the house.Then there was the trip to gear up the growing kids and worn out mittens and toques.

  16. amy Says:

    It has been harder and harder to get out of bed in the morning. The sun gets up later, why can’t I? I’m beginning to make soups and stews for dinner, much to the chagrin of the children….One can’t have hotdogs or spaghetti every night.

  17. The Countess of Nassau County Says:

    Basically I avoid the inside of the house most of the Summer, so I use Fall to kiss and make up. I try to throw out or donate as much as possible, get the garden ready, clean out the garage since we will now be parking the car in there. I too start using the slow cooker.

  18. Rebekah Says:

    For me, fall includes a big purge of stuff around the house, lots of warm soup recipes and lots of garden clean-up. It’s my favorite season, by far.Have you ever had your vitamin d levels tested? My doctor did it for me last winter and found that my levels were severely deficient. I’ve been taking a vitamin d supplement that she subscribed and I have found a big change in my mood level and energy. It’s worth a look. I’ve always struggled with seasonal depression and it was so much better last winter.http://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/vitamind.asp

  19. Laura Says:

    I am looking forward to establishing and reestablishing our autumn rituals, since this will be the first time we’ve prepared for "real" winter!

  20. laluna Says:

    two words – comfort food. ;-)

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